Thursday, December 13, 2012

Thank You Doesn't Seem To Be Enough

The last few days I've been trying to write a letter to Tin Man's donor family.  There's so much I want to say, but so much I can't say due to rules and all that.

Thank You just doesn't seem like enough.  Even though in the end we lost him, a transplant was his only fighting chance at a new beginning, but also living to watch his kids grow up.

I have talked to many donor families and some have told me they would rather remain clueless to whether their loved ones organs lived on or not.  Others have told me that they did choose to meet the family of a recipient that passed away after transplant and were very thankful they did.  That for them knowing that these people were still so grateful for the donor's decision made it worth everything.

During the 12 days that Tin Man was awake after transplant, we talked a lot about what we wanted to say to the family.  I hope that one day I do get to meet this family and thank them in person. 

These people have and always will have a special place in my heart.  The minute we got the call telling us they had a heart for Tin Man they became part of our family.





22 comments:

  1. oh wow
    this is very powerful and am so glad that you found a donor.. my prayers are with you and yours.. God truly is a gift ;)

    thanks for sharing Dorothy B.

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  2. I have been following your blog for a little while now. When I first read your story, I cried and cried. I am so sorry for your loss and that you are going through this pain. I could imagine this blog is somewhat therapeutic in it's own way and how it could help.

    For what it's worth, I want you to know that I am keeping you and your family in my prayers. May the Lord bring you all peace and may you find solace in him. Hugs.

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    1. Thanks for telling us your story and Good luck

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  4. Iam so sorry for your loss.Thank you for sharing this.

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  5. Just write what your heart tells you to write. Tell them what your husband said in those last days. Then thank them, even in their time of grieving, they were able to share something so precious. They gave you 12 days to talk about things with your husband that you may have never of gotten the chance to. Jesus gave up his life so that we can be saved. To me, donating an organ, is giving so that someone else can be saved. Then whether they read it or not is up to them. I'm sure they will read it when the time is right for them. The Lord will guide them and comfort them. He'll let them know when the time is right. Put it in His hands and know it will be ok. I am deeply sorry you lost your husband. I will keep you in my prayers.

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  6. Thank you for sharing your story. I am so sorry to hear about your husband. I am a new follower and I look forward to reading your posts. I am praying for you and your family.

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  7. I so agree with the post that "Thank You Doesn't Seem To Be Enough" there are so many people in our lives who have done a lot of sacrifices and Thank you sounds very small in front of it.

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    Kristina
    http://www.yomichaelmichael.com

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  9. I am so sorry for your loss. We nearly lost my husband this time last year, but by the grace of God he pulled through. Although I didn't know Tin Man personally, I am sure that he is at peace now. The donor family knows already how greatful you are for their generosity, but it is always nice to hear, and out of respect for their loved one, I think it would be appropriate to let them know that they gave Tin Man a fighting chance, even if it was only for a few more days.

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  10. Hi there,
    Just stopping over from the Harvest of Friends blog hop. So glad I came across your blog. Going through something similar with my husband. Now following you on Twitter and Facebook. If you have a moment to follow back, you can find me at http://thesweetspotblog.com. Thanks!
    Corinna from The Sweet Spot Blog

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  11. Sorry to hear of your loss. I hope that you find peace with what happen with the TinMan. Good luck to you.

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  12. A kind word is always appreciated!

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  13. My condolences to you. Organ transplants is something everyone should consider doing. In our state, my drivers license states that I am a donor.

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  14. I think writing the letter will make the donor family feel cherished and relieve some of your grief through words and appreciation. That is a very tough yet loving decision for you to write it

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  15. The courage is enormous here. I wouldn't know what to write. I just hope you will be able to carry on with great memories and perhaps one day write them down.

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  16. Sorry to hear of your loss. I feeling your pain while reading your blog. I hope that you be able to cope with it and my tought and prayer to you and your family

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  17. I can't imagine the pain of losing a husband, a father. I'm sorry to hear of your loss. I hope you find the strength you need during this time and you are in all of our thoughts!

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  18. This is so very touching. Holding back my tears as I read. I can't even begin to imagine the pain. You are so brave to be able to post your thoughts and feelings so candidly. I hope your journey of healing gets easier as the days pass by and your children's smiles remind you of all the good in life.

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  19. Thanks for sharing and I hope you do get to meet them someday. Sorry for your loss.

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  20. Very powerful words. Sorry for the loss...

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